"One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters."
The state of our community is such that if we don't all pitch in and do something, we're going nowhere fast. What group of individuals convened and decided to define fatherhood by how much money a man is able to give on schedule and why did women go and fall for it? Have children really been reduced to mere liabilities? From where I sit, children are an asset to each one of us, whether or not they are our own. As I listened to the radio this morning, I was disgusted by how one particular show was making light of the results of one man's DNA test results. Before having the test results read, this man was talking about his profound love for these babies and even the woman who gave birth to them. He said that they were in a loving relationship and all was well. Maybe I'm slow, but if this is the case, why did he feel the need to have this test performed? As soon as the results were read, his whole attitude changed. I understand his frustration, it's a humiliating thing to find out that you've been cheated on........period. To add to that the fact that these children are not your flesh and blood, I get it, it hurts. But, to punish these babies for the actions of their mother. Not cool at all. DNA results are great for absolving ill placed financial obligations that are regularly levied against men without so much as a second glance these days, but DNA results are slowly but surely also absolving what little hope we have as a people to reconnect and get this thing right. Back in the day, men raised children that weren't their flesh and blood all the time. Our communities were full of surrogate parents. I wonder today if that was only because they had no way out as they do today, or because they really cared about their legacies. Every child in your community is your child. You have a responsibility to help them in whatever way you can. If it's a dollar so be it, but what's even more valuable than your money is your time. Just as kids say the darndest things, they remember them as well. Give them something to not only talk about, but to remember.
"Any man can be a Father but it takes someone special to be a dad."
The state of our community is such that if we don't all pitch in and do something, we're going nowhere fast. What group of individuals convened and decided to define fatherhood by how much money a man is able to give on schedule and why did women go and fall for it? Have children really been reduced to mere liabilities? From where I sit, children are an asset to each one of us, whether or not they are our own. As I listened to the radio this morning, I was disgusted by how one particular show was making light of the results of one man's DNA test results. Before having the test results read, this man was talking about his profound love for these babies and even the woman who gave birth to them. He said that they were in a loving relationship and all was well. Maybe I'm slow, but if this is the case, why did he feel the need to have this test performed? As soon as the results were read, his whole attitude changed. I understand his frustration, it's a humiliating thing to find out that you've been cheated on........period. To add to that the fact that these children are not your flesh and blood, I get it, it hurts. But, to punish these babies for the actions of their mother. Not cool at all. DNA results are great for absolving ill placed financial obligations that are regularly levied against men without so much as a second glance these days, but DNA results are slowly but surely also absolving what little hope we have as a people to reconnect and get this thing right. Back in the day, men raised children that weren't their flesh and blood all the time. Our communities were full of surrogate parents. I wonder today if that was only because they had no way out as they do today, or because they really cared about their legacies. Every child in your community is your child. You have a responsibility to help them in whatever way you can. If it's a dollar so be it, but what's even more valuable than your money is your time. Just as kids say the darndest things, they remember them as well. Give them something to not only talk about, but to remember.
"Any man can be a Father but it takes someone special to be a dad."
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